I hope to connect with anyone else who, like myself, is going through the experience of being stalked online. In my case this has been going on for 5 years this coming July and it is horrible. It all began when I joined a website to try and connect with like minded people who enjoyed the same hobby as I did back then, it was a place to show off your graphic designs and meet others online doing the same thing. It's a really nice website to be a member of, no complaints there at all and it's certainly not the fault of any of the staff and admin who run it that I acquired a head case lunatic stalker. I guess I need to get this off my chest because of not only the duration of time this has been going on, but because it is the type of person doing this too. I've had lots of suggestions as to what may drive her to behave in such a manner towards me, the bottom line though is I just want her to stop. I know she will read this at some point but I have no faith that she will see reason and grant my request for her to just bloody well stop.
It all started when we connected on the site I joined back in 2015. I was getting to know everyone being the newbie and it was a fun time, seeing everyone's beautiful designs and posting my own creations. They caught her eye as did I and that's when the trouble began for me. At first she seemed nice, friendly and chatty and I thought we seemed to get along. Apparently I was wrong as she friend requested me on Facebook then unfriended almost straight after, weird but ok. I noticed she had also unfriended me on the website too, which is fine, no problem at all, I don't expect everyone to like me so it was and is all good on that score. What I later found out was that she was foul mouthing me in public posts to her friends on the website, some of it in her own language which wasn't difficult to translate thanks to Google :) I had no idea what caused it until the penny dropped. I had been promoted to an Official Artist shortly after joining the site, something that apparently takes longer than a month or so, I was really happy about it and everyone was wishing me well and congratulating me, well, everyone apart from her. It transpired she was jealous, she was bitter over it and stated that I hadn't earned the title. She was the only one who had issues about it, but that's fine, if she wanted to be sour and curdled like gone off cream over it, who am I to deny her such bitterness? It didn't stop there, I decided to just ignore her and continue being friendly with those who were warm, kind and happy for me about my promotion. They all felt I had earned it but at the time, I had let it upset me a little bit that someone could be so sour over it. Anyway, I continued making graphics and uploading them, I used to see her comment on mutual friends profiles but I never bothered with her after that and just focussed on those who had no issues with me. After some time, she was also promoted to Official Artist, it was announced in a Facebook group and the same lovely people who wished me well, also extended the same to her. I stayed quiet as I didn't want to cause a scene. I found out she had been a site member on and off for years before her promotion, maybe that's partly why she was jealous and bitter about it? When it came to announcing my promotion to Official Artist on Facebook, shortly after hers, she was nasty, posted her bitter diatribe about how she wasn't happy about it at all. True colours were starting to show through on her part. It was noted but we all chose to just continue until a friend came to me to tell me that a design I uploaded had been plagiarised by this person. When I looked it was very similar to mine, but then looking through her past months graphics she had literally copied almost all of my prior designs. If you haven't had a Flag Counter on your blog or site, they are useful, I did wonder why I was getting lots of visits from her country but didn't like to assume anything so I kept quiet. It all began piecing together, the excessive visits to my profile, a LOT of my designs copied by her and a deep hatred towards me on her part too. I decided to confront her as my friend had already done so, she of course came back with a retort that she wasn't copying me whatsoever and even had the utter temerity to suggest I was copying her. Total bullshit. I asked admin to check the dates and times of my uploads to then prove who was copying whom and it came back that she was indeed 100% copying my work and had been for some time along with foul mouthing me at every opportunity she got. She STILL argued that she wasn't copying me even though it was proven that she was. She had her Official Artist title revoked and that's when it got uglier on her part. She kicked off saying she was leaving the site, she threatened me telling me I would get what I deserve and again, went around bad mouthing me to everyone she could garner sympathy from. She was eventually kicked off the website for her behaviour, however that didn't deter her. She made fake profiles to abuse me on, leave nasty comments on my designs calling me a bitch etc..... This further abuse resulted in her being banned via her IP address and as far as I know, for good.
Even after all this, she still continued to abuse me on Facebook, I had to block her and everywhere else I could for a quiet life, or that's what I hoped anyway. Despite her being blocked everywhere I can block her, she still stalks me. When my mum died in 2016, I created a website which is locked now, no one can view it other than family members, I caught her stalking me there, which was hugely disrespectful on her part. I have records of her stalking me on my website here and it goes back to when I first built it back in 2016. She stalks me via my Pinterest as even though she is blocked, she can still view my pins, just not comment on them. She's visited my site via Pinterest, I know all of this as I have several methods of acquiring this information and have a Police Officer friend helping me. It wouldn't surprise me one bit if I find out that the one nasty comment I received from a fake Pinterest profile is actually her. It's her forte.
The stalking continues to this day, I've had various suggestions her behaviour is fuelled by jealousy, bitterness, hatred and a high degree of narcissism on her part. It's also been said she is so desperate to be me, I hope not because I really am nothing special and I think it's always best to just be you instead of hating someone you would like to be. She's unkind out of jealousy to make herself feel better. Now I'm painting PSP Tubes and making motion graphics she's worse than ever with the stalking. She's doing the same to my baby sister too. It's really not my place to offer over someone else's experience with this stalker, I just know that including myself there's 3 of us stalked to this day and one of us has been a victim twice as long as me. She has done this before, abused and copied someone else back in 2010/2011 and still refuses to leave them alone. So, I just needed to get this off my chest really. This behaviour isn't normal, to take such a huge and vested interest in someone you proclaim to literally hate is not a healthy mindset at all. She is completely fixated with me, she cannot go a week without checking my site, checking what I'm doing etc and I am very uncomfortable about the whole thing. I have spoken about this with some friends and it's very clear that the more we ignore her, the worse she becomes.
Has anyone else out there experienced this or similar? If so, has it stopped now or is it ongoing? If it has stopped, how did you get it to stop? HELP!! LOL .....
Thank you for reading, please join in the discussion and let me know of your experiences and how things are for you now, if you need some support then I'm happy to do that, perhaps we could support each other?
Best wishes to you all,